Your mindful Monday is hitting you on a Sunday because today is Move in Day at MSVU and the relevance is HIGH.
This week there has been and will be: reunions between friends, tears between family members, excitement and nervousness between your stomachs and hearts, and bright, beautiful places ready to be the homes of your incredible journeys through University.
What we sometimes forget is that this week there has been, and will be, times when we put our (I’m including myself) health at risk. I’m not just talking about physical health, or mental health. This week for new and returning students will be full of stress, anxiety, excitement, heavy lifting, overload of information and importantly a LOT of fun.
This is a lot for our body, brain and heart to process. When you’re enjoying every moment of back to school keep in mind that you need to take care of you first!
We all see someone we know, who has lost weight and think “wow they look incredible!”. We then say “Hey, you look incredible, you lost so much weight.”
Here lies the mistake.
We are making the facts that they have lost weight and that they look incredible dependant upon each other. As if they are linked. This is wrong. They look incredible, they are incredible no matter what.
People don’t always intend to lose weight. Weight loss can be a part of illness, physical and mental. Complimenting someone on losing weight, can often act as encouragement, incentive to lose more weight. If someone is suffering from depression, anxiety or an eating disorder that has led to weight loss, comments like “you look great, you lost so much weight” can be damaging to their ability to recover.
It’s a habit. A bad one, but one we can easily break. Simply say: “you look incredible today” or “I really love that outfit on you” or any other compliment on how wonderful they are inside and out that does not involve weight.
Even if someone chooses to lose the weight, complimenting them on it suggests that there was something wrong with how they were before. If they’re happy about it, tell them “you seem happy, that’s great”.
Complimenting someone on their weight, is not really a compliment.
Happy to see Buzzfeed doing a Body Positivity Week featuring many videos such as this one:
It is no secret that girls face oppression in even today’s society. Yes, we have come very far, some may argue that we have come far enough. There are people that will tell us to “let it go” or “move on” or “stop dredging up old issues”. To these people, I would like to say one thing.
We all know the people, the relationship savers, the “clingers”, the passionate, caring, kind people. The people who try their fair share, or maybe even a little bit more in relationships (friendly or romantic). The ones who you may think simply don’t get the hint that you don’t want them around. The people pleaser say heart, that want to have good experiences with everyone. Maybe you are this person, maybe you are the opposite of these people. We all know them too. The ones who only care when it’s convenient, who never text you first. The ones who never keep conversations going, and never initiate meeting up. Either way, this is for you. Continue reading “An open letter: To the ones that always try”→
While attending my favorite weekly yoga session we laid down for our guided meditation. This is my favorite part of the session, mostly because it is 95% laying down not moving, but also because it is the most challenging for me. It is not an easy task for me lye still, be completely silent, and keep my mind empty. I struggle with this every class, but I have found myself getting better at quieting my thoughts during the meditation.
As with all things yoga, it comes with practice, but there will be better days than others. On a day when I am stressed, with many things on my mind, it seems almost impossible to clear. What I have noticed, is how interesting the things that will pop into your mind during silence are. Continue reading “The Loudness of Silence”→
The first in a series that I am very exciting to release is this week’s Mindful Monday. There’s a ton of fantastic ways to beat those Monday Blues, and what better than to do something to be mindful of yourself. Whether that is being mindful of your mind, body, environment, hunger level (mine right now is HIGH), or anything else that affects how you feel.
Mindful Mondays will feature pieces on how to start your week off right, and take care of yourself. They can be anything like fun, feel good recipes, simple yoga routines, or a fantastic book. It’s all about taking care of you!